Questioning the Ethics of Small Change

written 12 Sep 2007 in the earliest morning

A coffee shop is primarily empty at 8:27am on a Wednesday morning. It’s hump day, the first truly cold morning since the 2007-2008 school year has begun and the world is spinning around according to schedule. An old man is behind the counter, he’s poured my drink and I’ve been enjoying it for awhile. He’s a bit of a crabby old coot, prone to mood swings and I’ve heard he likes to pretend like he was in ‘Nam. I ask him for a coffee with some room for skim milk, and he obliges by stopping the pour a quarter inch short and handing me the gallon of skim. I pour it, to his reply “I’m glad you did that and not me.” I’m not exactly sure what that means, but I’m not exactly concerned either as I’m used to his unusual attitude.

Several minutes later a man comes in, squared jaw, blue shirt, black slacks, maroon tie. He’s ordering a coffee for himself, the total comes out to $1.26 or something similar, an amount requiring a penny. The customer reaches into the tip jar on the corner and I can hear the server behind the counter mutter something.

“You’re upset because I took a penny out of your tip jar?” A scour falls over the customer’s face and his voice tones sarcastic. The guy behind the counter mumbles something else, laughs to himself in the most patronizing way he can (to whom he’s patronizing isn’t quite certain.) “Here, here’s a nickel,” the customer retorts, takes his drink and sits himself down.


Who was wrong in this situation?

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  • Regardless of who the server is, its already a little awkward if you havent spared anything to tip… but if youre short and cant tip which happens, helping yourself to the tip jar – someone elses money – adds insult to injury. It obviously wasnt about the money at all because a penny is worth nothing… the whole principle and way the guy assumed it would be okay was insulting.

    In the same situation I would have awkwardly admitted I was short and asked if he minded I take a penny out the jar. If he’d said no I still would have expected that possibility and maybe ordered something else, or offered to come back and bring the penny. Then I would have succeeded in showing respect where its due. I definitely wouldnt have tried to make the server feel even smaller and more insulted by being snide, then going off to enjoy a drink I couldnt have afforded without his help.

    After all if I didnt want to pay for service, I’d have made my own drink at home.

    - Ms. Wakame | 10:59pm 12 Sep 07
  • Well, the guy definitely could afford it, I think he just didn’t want to end up with a bunch of extra pennies.

    Which he could’ve thrown the server’s way.

    I’m not on one side or the other and I definitely agree, just ask first. But for all I know, the guy may have asked. I just found it interesting.

    - nathan | 11:24pm 12 Sep 07

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